Oh Ibu....

"Selamat hari ibu untuk semua ibu-ibu".

Why only one day for mothers, when mothers never spare a single day for us
Why make a big deal about sending a card for mothers, when mothers would give us their hearts
Why shout of what we have done for them, when mothers gave their lives without a whisper.

I salute all mothers, especially mothers of children with special needs. I have seen mothers' love at their best - overcoming all sort of tests.
I admire mothers who have to do it alone. Left on their own - yet they stand tall and never falter. Single mothers - are simply selfless, parenthood where two-is-in-one is never easy yet they face each day with a kind of resolve which no eyes can really see.

Mine was a single mother too when "chek" ( I called my father as chek)

died when I was aged 10.
Mak tapped rubber, planted rice and cooked and sold kueh for a living. Infact Mak did everything for a living. She planted ubi setelo and water melons, she looked for 'pucuk kayu' and sold them in exchange for rice and sugar. My mak was so enterprising, I guess she had to be. She was strong, my mak. But I saw how she cried in the darkness of the night - perhaps when she missed my chek. Mak never asked, she always gave. And on her death bed in 2002, she made me promise to be a good Muslim and to do my Haj. That was the first time she actually asked from me something.
Yesterday - in front of the Kaabah I kissed the marble floor and let my tears flowed as I prayed for her soul. I saw mak yesterday - she was smiling down on me. I heard her voice encouraging me to continue living. While I was praying for her, I saw mak was praying for me. She was praying for my success, for my health, and for my happiness. Mak knows something which I have not disclosed - as mak always knew when she was alive. Saying with words how much I missed and love my mak is never enough and can never reflects how I feel.

She and I connected yesterday - and she lives on in my heart.

I have to say it, even if it sounds so inadequate, " I love and miss you mak - and thank you for raising me with your love - I am still trying to be who you wish me to be".

And to LiL, a special wish and tribute "HaPPy mother's day". You have been a pillar of strengths. You raised our children when I was busy getting my career raised. You shelter them from the wild wild world - while I was traveling the world. You helped them with their homework, when all you deserve was to rest from the exhaustion of a never ending housework. You have been a nurse, a teacher, a manager, an entertainer, a listener. I am lucky to have you as a partner, and the children are lucky to have you as their mother.
"We all love you".

69 cara menggembirakan hati suami!

Ada lah sedikit nasik kerabu untuk tatapan pengunjung blog ini. Jika ada yang tak betul, cuba lah perbetulkan....Jika ada nak tambah - sila kan juga!
69 ramuan untuk membuat suami berselera - dan sendawa kekenyangan setelah licin pinggan dan mangkuk. Bak kata Kolonel Saunders - "Sedapnya, hingga menjilat jari....."

Menggembirakan suami di waktu pagi :
1. Bangun pagi2 - terus gosok gigi. Kejut partner untuk buat yang sama

2. Sebelum makan roti - baring2 dulu sambil bergusti

3. Gigit dia di sana sini

4. Bergurau senda - sama2 happy

5. Lelaki suka releks di waktu pagi. Jadi, yang memegang peranan utama haruslah si isteri.

6. Bagi tau dia - "Hebat sungguh wahai suami! Jamu apakah yang abang amali?, Kerasnya kalah sebatang besi"

7. Jika dia tersenyum2 - tanya lah, "eh abang nak lagi?"

8. Jika perlu - bagi jangan tak bagi.

9. Sudah selesai - berdua'an sama2lah mandi.

10. Baru lah ke dapur untuk makan roti, ubi atau capati.

11. Bersalaman sambil mencium tangan, mengucup mulut sebelum dia pergi.

12. Tunggu di pintu dan lambaikan dia sehingga dia hilang dari pandangan. Lepas tu sambung lah tidur hingga tengah hari.

Menggembirakan suami semasa dia di pejabat:
13. Suami suka di percayai - kurangkan bertanya itu dan ini

14. Hantar sms cinta dan sayang - hanya sesekali

15. Surprise dia dengan rengetan meminta dia pulang untuk lunch and a quickie

16. A quickie itu perlu - walaupun sebulan hanya sekali.

17. A quickie mengeratkan hubungan dan thrill antara suami dan isteri.

Memuaskan hati suami apabila dia pulang dari kerja:
18. Mandi dan berhias, cantik dan wangi

19. Panaskan air - bersedia untuk buatkan tea

20. Sediakan kueh mueh masakan sendiri

21. Biar dia rasa special - yang isteri mengingatinya sepanjang hari

22. Pasanglah musik - yang ada melodi

23. Tunggu dia di pintu pagar dengan muka berseri2

24. Ambil bag kerjanya - sambil bersalam dan cium pipi

25. Berpimpin tangan - sambil menjeling sesekali.

26. Tolong dia bukakan stokin - sambil mengurut2 kaki ( jika sudi dan ihlas di hati )

27. Cakap lah betapa seronoknya - sebab sudah pulang si suami.
"I miss u the whole day tadi" <---harus perbagaikan ayat ini.

Menggembirakan suami di waktu malam:
28. Jika ada anak2 - tidukan anak2 dulu tanpa menyusahkan suami.

29. Jika hanya berdua - layan dia seperti seorang Raja

30. Atau anggap lah dia kekasih sewaktu zaman remaja

31. Utama kan pakaian wahai isteri - sungguh penting untuk suami

32. Kain sarung batik itu ok la untuk menyapu laman atau membasuh pinggan

33. Namun untuk suami pakai lah yang sexy2

34. Dan make up itu umpama kan malam pertama - cantik dan wangi2

35. Lelaki juga suka jika di puji-puji

36. "You are my prince - you hold the key to my hati " <---perbagaikan ayat ini.

37. Jangan pressure dia - sebab lelaki bila ada pressure tak boleh berfungsi

38. Cara terbaik....ialah membelai, bergurau senda, usik mengusik bagaikan dua merpati

39. Duduk lah di balkoni - sambil menikmati udara malam dan suasana sepi.

Memuaskan suami di ranjang:

40. Sebelum waktu tidur - sediakan kamar dengan lilin pewangi

41. Sediakan diri - cantik dan wangi tapi tidak lah berupa hantu pari

42. Pintu kamar harus di kunci - untuk privacy

43. Berbisik lah - luahan rasa cinta dari hati

44. Belai dia dengan hujung jari

45. Cium dia - leher, pipi dan dahi

46. Kucup bibir - dan secukup rasa yang lain lain ikut naluri

47. Bimbing dia ke hala tuju yang di sukai

48. Bagi peransang - dengan keluhan, mengerang dan pelbagaikan bunyi

49. Jangan kaku dan bisu - tak ngam lah kalau macam ni

50. Lelaki makin di puji makin lah menjadi

51. Gigit, sedut, belai - guna kan bibir, lidah dan jari jemari

52. Tumpukan kedua-dua - menerima dan memberi

53. Mana yang enak itu - minta dia buatkan lagi

54. Tease him, play with him, caress him, and love him

55. Foreplay - take your time to excite his mind , his soul and his whole body.

56. Encourage him, lead him - to where it matters and boleh buat you geli-geli.

57. Bila sudah gemuruh denyut nadi - bersedialah untuk mendayung pergi

58. Sixty Nine is not just a number - it is a wonderful way untuk menerima dan memberi

59. Adakan feedback dengan bisikan dan keluhan dalam pelayaran

60. Bergilir lah memainkan peranan - sama2 mencari dan memberi kepuasan

61. Guna kan katil sepenuhnya - pelbagaikan posisi

62. Birai katil, bucu katil, di tengah katil - di kepala katil semua boleh jadi

63. Sesekali ada kan adegan erotika - gunakan alat bantu seperti blind-fold, bulu ayam, fresh cream atau pun gari.

64. Bila sudah dekat dengan kemuncak - bagitau lah dia "Darling - I am comingggg"

65. Bila isteri mencapai nikmat itulah nikmat untuk sang suami !

66. Namun ada juga masa - cukup lah sekadar bermanja-manja dan bergurau senda.

67. "Making love" - bukan semestinya berahir dengan air cinta. Yang penting ada manja-manja.

68. Dan jika " make love " dalam apa bentuk pun sudah berahir - eloklah tidak terus hanyut dengan dengkuran

69. Berkucupan dan mengucapkan 'selamat malam' dan ulangi ucapan keramat 'i love you' sebelum berahirnya satu lagi hari bersama melayari bahtera rumah tangga.

I look forward to your addition to the list. Perhaps from a woman's perspective - on how a man can return the favours. Afterall, according to one lady here - men are all still cavemen! We can do with some tips on how to emerge from our caves with better skills on how to please modern women of today.

Dan untuk bakal pengantin ini - I hope these tips will come in useful. .....Darah manis tu harus hati-hati!

Counting the days!

Counting the Days!
“Do you miss me – are you too counting the days?”

Finally at 2am, the charter flight landed in Dubai. It will be another two hours before my head can hit pillows in yet another hotel room. Unconsciously, I slipped into a life long habit of using my fingers to count any remaining hours of sleep I can have. One, Two, Three - I have three hours before I had to spring to life * supposedly full of zest* for another meeting. I need my Multivitamins....I need a tight hug and a tender loving kiss....I need to listen to your voice. But I know *and I hope so* that you are deep in your sleep. Most likely with Luqman by your side, but wishfully with me in your dream.

Four more days before I am home.

An evening in Cairo

K from Casablanca, S from Dubai, N from Cairo and urs truely at the Khan El-Khalili.

I am here in Cairo for a business meeting. This is a city which runs deep in cultural and historical heritage. The people are generally very friendly, extremely polite and warm. This is also a city of great disparity between the "have lots" and the 'have nots'. Luxury cars are few on the road, and when you do see one, it almost certainly belongs to one of the elite few have lots. The have nots walk the street of cairo in the millions. The Have Lots continue to accumulate plenty more and the pitiful have nots continue to pass their poverty to their future generations.

This is a city which thrives on tourism as a main source of income. Be warned, behind the friendly smile and apparent politeness lurk a kind of entrepreunerial determination and wicked salesmanship which can persuade you to part with your hard earned cash.

My flights and hotel expenses are paid by the company - A priviledge I enjoy.
My experience of Cairo is, however, my own - an opportunity I maximize.
So on the one evening I have here, I went to Khan El-Khalili Bazaar and looked for the famous and popular Naguib Mahfouz's cafe for dinner. The food never dissapoint, and the ambience unique and memorable. Traditional musics, shisha and hush sounds of people in conversation can lull you into the heartland of old Egypt. Afterall, Naguib Mahfouz was a novel Laurette winner.

The business meeting I was chairing accomplished its objectives. The visit was brief, and stay was pleasant. An evening in Cairo is always memorable.

I have to stop from typing this entry as the driver has arrived. A new driver, one who looks more experienced. He is here on time to pick me up for the airport. That is a super improvement from two days ago - and with the hospitality I have received since, the delays and confusion at the airport on arrival seems so misplaced and best forgotten except for the lessons from the Arab with a beard.

added on from home after arrival, with a mug of hot chocolate:

(I dedicate this poem to my dearest wife LiL who waited by the door to welcome me home )
I sat watching the stars above
and listening to the dins of traffic below
it is so easy to think of love
watching reflections of neon glows

Cleopatra was as alone as this
When she prayed for Egypt’s ultimate bliss
The pulse of life which travels miles
Come wash their pain, oh River Nile

I dont have Cleopatra's magic
neither do I wish to be as tragic
but for love and affection I desired the same
before the sinners of Cairo got burnt in flames

I'd rather think of loving thoughts
of honeymooners by the Nile they walk
with future's hopes, they giggles and smile
'Keep their happiness afloat, oh River Nile'

Then I looked to the stars and think of you
just as the Nile's tide, when you’re pouring lean
How I want more, darker shades of blue
and when you’re not with me at any scene
I miss you dearly the whole night through.

Come join me tonight on my balcony
together let us create a future to be
let us plunge into the streaming flow
spread our wings to where the night breeze blows.

River Nile, Your mystic keeps me dreaming
Your wonder fills my longing
Your affection keeps me floating
Your endless whispering keeps me flying
without you knowing,
you're the wind beneath my wings.
Like a desert fertilized by the Nile
Love overflows - in the silent darkness I sat and smile.
.........forever, side by side we will walk the miles!

*balcony of sheraton on the nile. night of april twentytwo, twothousand seven.
with you in my mind - wishing you were with me - stone cold balcony could be heaven*